Women don't have to at least if they are not diseased with woke feminist illness.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/mar/18/atlanta-spa-shootings-men-rage-sex-addiction
Why do so many straight men come to resent the women they find attractive?
To be able to experience sexual attraction without it becoming a source of rage requires a degree of respect that the Atlanta suspect, and men like him, do not possess
Thu 18 Mar 2021 14.44 GMT
It’s unclear if Robert Aaron Long, the 21-year-old white man who killed eight people on Tuesday – seven of them women, and six of them Asian women – in a mass shooting across three different massage parlors in the Atlanta area, even knew his victims’ names. After he was arrested and taken into police custody unharmed, Long promptly took responsibility for the shootings. He told officers that he had frequented the massage parlors, which appear to sell sexual services, and that he considers himself to be suffering from a “sex addiction”. He claims that he shot up the massage parlors in order to rid himself of “temptation”. By “temptation” he means, presumably, the temptation that was presented by the women’s existence, and which he thought could be eliminated once they were no longer alive.
Long’s attacks come after a long year of mounting hate crimes and street harassment against Asian people. Reports of anti-Asian hate crimes are up 150% over the past year, and many speculate that the rise in anti-Asian hatred has been provoked by the racist fearmongering of Donald Trump and other Republican politicians, who have blamed the Covid-19 pandemic on what they hatefully term the “China virus”.
Long’s acts have also illuminated the vulnerability of sex workers, whose industry is largely illegal and unregulated, and who have few protections as workers and few opportunities to advocate for better pay, safer working conditions, or greater control over their own bodies and images, and few avenues to avoid or de-escalate confrontations with the police – who frequently arrest, incarcerate or deport sex workers on the flimsy and paternalistic pretext of “rescue”. As sex workers’ rights advocates have long and eloquently argued, the answer to sex workers’ vulnerability is not more policing, as police have often been the source of sex workers’ suffering. Instead, decriminalization will keep sex workers out of jails and prisons – and robust immigration reform will allow those sex workers who come to the US from other countries to work and organize without the exacerbating pressures of possible deportation and debt. When people cannot work in the open, either due to the fear of arrest or deportation, they will not stop working. They will keep working, but under clandestine conditions that make them more vulnerable to exploitation and abuse. As a practical matter, these policy interventions are needed for sex workers to live with greater safety and dignity.
Long, if we are to take his own account seriously, seems to have killed the women because he, personally, found them attractive. His account of his own motive points to a broader problem not only with the status of sex work, but with the dynamics of heterosexuality in a culture that prizes male strength and female submission: Long seems to have experienced his own desire for the women who worked at the parlors as enraging, offensive and intolerable.
The conflation of sexual desire and hate for the object of that desire in male heterosexuality is a pattern that becomes obvious once you know how to look for it. Sexual culture abounds with the eroticized contempt of women, and with the understanding of straight sex, in particular, as implicitly adversarial – a needlessly reductive and limiting understanding of heterosexuality, yet nevertheless a popular one. There is some evidence that even the police officers who arrested Long feel some empathy with his experience of desire for women as an affliction or affront. At a press conference, Jay Baker, the Cherokee county captain, said of Long’s rampage: “He was pretty much fed up and at the end of his rope. It was a really bad day for him, and this is what he did.” The characterization of a man who killed seven women as the victim of a “really bad day” doesn’t make sense unless the person making that claim understands Long’s hatred of attractive women as at least a somewhat legitimate grievance.